Love Letters: Do Men Like Bossy Women?

Before I pry into the love lives of our readers, I’d like to address an interesting article that made the rounds last week. Apparently it’s becoming more common for women to purchase their own engagement rings.

I wish y’all would have told me that in ’05 before I went broke in that jewelry store.

This new development seemed to annoy many of my female friends, who feel like it’s an excuse for a man to be cheap. Calm down, people, I really don’t think it’s that serious. Granted, I wouldn’t let my future wife pay for her own ring (I’m too old school for that) but I wouldn’t criticize any woman who bought her own. Think of it this way – marriage is a partnership. When you get married, both of you will be drowning in debt together anyway. Might as well get an early start.

Oh, and for you ladies who say men should be honored to give you a ring in exchange for changing your last name and birthing babies, get your minds right. A ring is a promise of commitment, not payment for chores. Keep thinking that way and it’ll be a LONG time before any dude puts a ring on it.

But I digress. Here’s how I can answer your love questions:

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Here’s today’s question:

Do men secretly love bossy women?

Who’s The Boss

Playa, I think you’re confusing “bossy” with “assertive.” There’s a big difference.

Back in my pimpin’ days, nothing turned me off faster than a weak-willed woman. Y’all know me, I’m a confident, opinionated guy and I love when someone can challenge my thoughts. I once dated this girl who would agree with any and everything I said. If I asked where she wanted to go for dinner, she always said, “whatever you want is fine.” When I asked her opinion on something, she replied, “whatever you like is OK with me.”

I was dating Imani from Coming to America.

And like Prince Akeem, I had no desire to spend my life with a mindless android.

No man with common sense wants a close-minded, bossy woman. Instead, we appreciate someone who can think for herself and isn’t afraid to speak up (in a respectful manner, of course).

Ladies, challenge us but don’t disrespect us. That’s all we ask.

Bonus question:

Why is it that a man can cheat on a woman but when the woman in turn cheats on him he almost has a nervous breakdown?

DL

This isn’t a male issue, homie, I’ve seen women do the same thing. It’s all good when they’re running game but when the tables get turned, it’s a different story. Next thing you know they’re on my Facebook timeline posting Bible scriptures and crying about how all men are dawgz. These chicks think they’re as smart as Olivia Pope but they’re as mature as Olivia from The Cosby Show.

I wish y’all would stop acting so invincible. It hurts when your partner shatters the trust you’ve built together. Y’all know that. So why turn around and do the same thing when it could easily happen to you?

Their lives would be so much easier if they just followed tried and true Golden Rule: “Treat others as you would want to be treated.” In fact, take that a step further and live by the Platinum Rule: “Stop creeping. It’s too expensive and time consuming.”