Love Letters: Why Don’t Men Commit?

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I’m sure it’s a little of both.

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Here’s today’s question:

How long can some men just go around sleeping with women with no commitment? Why can’t some men just grow up?
MP

I’m very honored to be Georgia Mae’s answer man, providing solutions to questions that keep y’all up at night. But I must admit, there are some questions even I can’t answer.

Why are people still waiting for Dr. Dre to release Detox? Detox ain’t NEVA coming out!

Are Lil Bow Wow and Lil Mama the same person? I’m not even sure which one this is.

Does this fool know she’s using insulation as weave? She looks like a Laffy Taffy Peggy Bundy.

What I CAN answer is why men continue to sleep around with no regards for commitment.

Because women let them!

Look, men can’t have sex with themselves (well, I guess they can, but let’s not go there). Somewhere along the line, that guy hooked up with a willing woman, moved on to another willing woman, moved on to yet another willing woman, etc.

See the pattern? As long as that guy continues to find women with easy access, why would he want to grow up? Don’t get me wrong, men should be held accountable for their actions, but it’s easy for men to act up when women leave the door, and other things, wide open.

The question is, why are women so quick to let these guys dine and dash?

From my experience, many women in these situations are a) too concerned with sex themselves and ignore the consequences or b) give up the goods and hope their charming personality will keep the man around. In either case, if the man is looking for thrills and he’s getting what he wants upfront  there’s absolutely no reason for him to stick around.

Ladies, if your new man says he needs sex in order to take your budding relationship to another level, trust me, the last thing on his mind is a relationship. Don’t be an enabler. And if he gets mad and moves on, let him. He’s never gonna grow up if he keeps getting free rides. Ahem.