Love Letters: Are Your Kids Hurting Your Love Life?

I hope everyone had a merry and memorable Christmas.

And I hope the family drama was kept to a minimum. If not, that’s what I’m here for.

Got a question about your love life? I have smart-aleck remarks answers.

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Here’s today’s question:

How do I tell my bff that her daughter is ruining her love life? Her 10-year-old daughter is a holy terror. She is mouthy, loud and a lil know-it-all. Every time she gets serious with a guy and introduces him to her they run. She seems to think it’s because she has a child. That’s not it it’s her child’s attitude. How do I break this to her?

Tired of BeBe’s kids

You gottta be careful with this one, playa. Even when their children are uncontrollable, raging monsters devoid of any compassion or common sense (i.e., my Cousin Chris Brown), people typically don’t appreciate unsolicited parenting advice.

If this child is as demonic as you say, your friend has much bigger problems than landing a man – she needs to take care of her crazy kid first.

It’s gonna be tough – and you’re almost guaranteed to take some flak – but you probably should sit down with your friend and discuss the demon seed. Don’t accuse your friend of bad parenting or anything like that, just mentionthat you’ve witnessed the child acting out and ask if she’s noticed it as well. No matter how belligerent your friend might become, keep your cool, say your piece, then be done with it. It’s her child, after all, you can’t force her to discipline her child.

Nothing freaks out a man faster than a satanic future stepchild. But the mom’s first priority is her own household, not some dude. Once she gets her child under control she can then worry about her love life.

Bonus question:

Why is it that a man will date a ghetto hoodrat working at McDonald’s but a woman won’t date an unpolished man working at McDonald’s?

KJ

The problem here has nothing to do with McDonald’s and the manna from heaven we call McRibs. Why are people dating unpolished hoodrats in the first place?

Some men have no problem dating classless women; some classless women pass judgement on men they feel are beneath them. In both cases, it has nothing to do with the people they’re pursuing. Those actions are the result of the dater’s poor self-esteem.

There’s nothing wrong with working at McDonald’s (as long as we’re not talking about some unmotivated bum who has his/her rent paid by their momma). Hoodrats and scrubs don’t just reside in fast food joints. They infest corporate America too. Those are the people you need to avoid.