Love Letters: Are Men Intimidated By Beautiful Women?

It’s New Year’s Eve 2013. We almost made it through another one, playas.

Remember back in the ’90s when rappers had album interludes predicting that the world would blow up on New Year’s Eve? In case Busta Rhymes or Method Man get their doomsday prophecies right for once, allow me to set your love life straight in our few remaining hours.

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Here’s today’s question:

Why are some men intimidated by beautiful, intelligent, educated women?

***Flawless

Why are y’all intimidated by handsome, well-spoken, career-minded men? In the words of pre-insane Kanye West, “We’re all self-conscious, I’m just the first to admit it.”

Let me take you back to my college days, when rap was still good and tight pants were worn exclusively by women. One day on campus, I caught sight of one of the finest women I’ve ever seen in my life. She had short curly hair and was built like Kim K (pre-insane-Kanye, of course).

After I had my female friends do some investigative research, I discovered that the mystery woman was an avid ice skater and worked in the same mall I did. I was also told that she was pretty cool.

Even after all that interesting info – more that enough for me to strike up a conversation with the ice skater – I never spoke to her. Why? Because she was about 5’11. I’m 5’6. And after being told by a billion different munchkin girls under 5 feet tall that I would be “the perfect man” if I was just 5 inches taller, I figured that the Amazonian ice skater wouldn’t give this short brother the time of day.

Y’all know I don’t lack in confidence. Never have. But that was the one time my insecurities got the best of me.

So yeah, it’s tough for some men to approach women who seem to have the world in the palm of their hands. And even though you ladies won’t admit it, you struggle with it too. How could someone who seems so “together” make time for someone who is still struggling to find their place in life?

But that’s the funny part. That person who seems so together is just as flawed as you are. So take a chance and approach that person who seems out of your league. The worst that will happen is that you’re brushed off. At least you tried.

I never approached the Ice Princess (other than giving her the hood head nod in the mall once) but I made out OK, all things considered. Still, don’t let insecurities mess up your shot at happiness.

I mean, insane Kanye has a babymomma. There’s hope for everyone.

ROUND 2 … FIGHT:

How long is too long for a man to be unemployed before a woman gets tired of holding it down? 

Nothin’ Going On But the Rent