Love Letters: Should You Start A New Relationship Before Divorce Is Finalized?

The wifey and I finally checked out Man of Steel. I thought it was pretty solid. She was only impressed by one thing.

Superman’s beard.

She has a weird obsession with men with scruffy faces and apparently Homeless Superman is a dreamboat. Our marriage vows have been shattered by Superman’s scraggly beard.

Life as a shorty shouldn’t be so rough.

But enough about my problems, lets talk about yours. Got a question? Hit me up.

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Here’s today’s question:

If a man or woman is legally separated from their spouse is it cool for them to begin dating before their divorce is finalized?

DC

I think “DC” is actually “KK.” How’s baby North West doing, Kim K?

But back to your question. The divorce process is long, winding and torturous. It can go on for seemingly an  eternity. And during that time, it’s very easy to find comfort in the arms of another. If a divorce is in its final stages, I don’t see a problem with dating.

But let me clarify that.

By “dating” I mean going out and meeting other people. I don’t mean immediately moving in with someone new, getting someone else pregnant (*cough*KimYe*cough*) or running off during the early stages of the divorce. Y’all love to jump the gun sometimes.

The divorce process often drudges up old feelings – both good and bad. You might hate your ex with the fire of 1,000 suns right now but what if that changes before the ink dries on those divorce papers? You owe it to yourself (and the new person in your life) to close that chapter before starting another.

In a perfect world, I’d advise against starting a new relationship until the divorce is signed and sealed. But we don’t live in a perfect world. Just make sure your old relationship is totally over before starting anew.

Question No. 2…

Let’s say a new woman begins a relationship with a man that she was messing around with while he was married. He also has children with the ex. The children love her but the ex is a problem (which you can see would be an issue). Is it shady if the new woman sends the ex flowers on Mother’s Day saying what a great mom she is?

KJ

WHAT KIND OF WORLD DO YOU PEOPLE LIVE IN?

This is like Super Mario Bros. boss level-sized drama. I don’t have enough free time to manufacture such madness.

Lemme get this straight (and correct me if I’m totally confused, I didn’t study Ratchet Psychology in college): Dude with kids cheats on his Ex with New Woman. New Woman (who luvs da kidz) then sends the Ex a Mother’s Day gift for being such a good mother?

Why didn’t New Woman just go to the Ex’s house and slap her in the face with roses? It would have had the same effect.

Even if New Woman loves the kids, why twist the dagger into the heart of woman who had her family broken up? New Woman is not only stupid for hooking up with a man who cheated in his last relationship, she’s also callous. That gift spits in the face of Ex’s last relationship.

Ex definitely deserves a gift, though. In my eyes she’s a better woman than New Woman.

On that note, I’m going to go weep for America.