When love doesn’t add up

Contributed by: Karie

Last weekend, I heard the most beautiful song about loving that special someone. It presented a colorful vocal arrangement over soothing jazz. Hearing the complete song literally brought tears to my eyes along with a vivid memory of someone I hope I will soon forget.

He was the person I described as my complement. We had the perfect amount of similarities and differences. The chemistry was amazing; there were intense sparks and intense heated arguments. Surprisingly, the combination did not add up for us.

The song is that deep and uses math as memorable metaphor. It’s called “The Mathematics of Love” by George Clinton and His Gangsters of Love. The song speaks of two lovers who don’t have the best relationship but feel that the smallest percentage or ounce of the other is not only equal to the whole, but brings dividends more of that which comprises love.

“I count the moments when we’re apart and add them up, mathematically. And multiply them by the kisses that I’ve been missing. […] Any percentage of you is as good as the whole pie. And any fraction there of, brings dividends of interest.”
Excerpt from “Mathematics of Love” performed by George Clinton and Kim Burrell

The song suggests that the smallest amount of love is as good enough as the full amount in a relationship. In a fairy tale, this is a charming concept; however, in our real and complicated world, it doesn’t fly. Often, singles tend to hang on to poisoned relationships and settle for less than what they deserve. There are numerous factors that keep you apart, but that one unknown variable that keeps the attraction strong. In some cases, love just doesn’t add up.

Instead of dwelling on missed kisses and moments apart, singles should focus on finding a love that is equal to or greater than the kind of love they want and deserve. Refuse to settle for a smaller percentage. If love doesn’t quite add up the first time, take a break, get a tutor and give it a second attempt. If that doesn’t work, don’t be afraid of trying a new equation.

Note: Special thanks to WHUR’s Jeff Brown (96.3 FM of Washington, DC) for sending the song information and for always playing great music.

About the contributor: Karie (pronounced like Marie with a “K) is new to the blogging world. She is a single, 20-something living in the DC Metropolitan area. Professionally, she is a technical writer. Outside of the office, she enjoys graphic design, creative writing, reading, and tennis. Please contact her at tracykarie@yahoo.com.